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Earlier this week, my husband and I celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary. So, this week I have been reflecting back on us and our marriage. My thoughts about our anniversary have been a little different than in the past years. I am not necessarily thinking about how fast the time is going or the hard times we have made it through to get here. This year my thoughts drift to how much we have changed in the last 5 years.
We got married very young by today’s standards, and although I wouldn’t have it any other way, There are some unique challenges young married couples face. Unfortunately a lot don’t make it. I am sad to say out of the young couples we have known none are still married.
Why is it so hard on a marriage to start out young? Well, let me start off by saying in this day and time it isn’t easy staying married period, no matter what the age. But, you have something extra working against you when you take the leap at 20. You are going to change a lot in the next few years. You will grow to be different people than what you were, it’s only natural. If you still had the same views that you had at 20, you would be in trouble.
Have we changed? OH, YES! Did you know that my husband was in a hardcore band when I met him? A far cry from the responsible dad who is into raising chickens and gardening, huh? Now if we are up at 2am it is because our Little Mister is sick, not because we just went to a show and are eating at Waffle House. Five years later he is a little tighter with money, and my clothes are just tight.
So, how do you make it? First, of all I am no expert, but in my opinion you have to be willing to grow together, and stop living in the past. Yes, we are a lot different now, and if he reminds me we are saving for a house one more time I might scream! All things considered though, he still is the same wonderful person that I married. We just have different hobbies and habits now. I’m sure in 10 years I will tell you how we have changed even more, but how we were in the past doesn’t really matter as much as being committed to the future.